I am in no particular rush to grown up at all, but, with my next birthday being my 25th I’ve started to feel a bit too close to 30 for my liking. Although I am 90% sure I haven’t followed that perfect white picket fence life plan I set myself 10 years ago, I can’t say I haven’t enjoyed my 20’s or that I haven’t learnt anything. They just didn’t go the way I thought they would but, I have learnt some serious lessons and discovered a whole new lease of life I didn’t even know I wanted!
GROW UP AS YOU GROW OLD
Life aspirations are huge and when you’re a career driven person like me we often forget to take our blinkers off occasionally and take in our surroundings. I left education wanting to be a number of professions from journalist to pathologist and yet here I am as a magazine editor and blogger. This particular path isn’t where I saw myself going but you know what, that’s okay! The older I have gotten the more inspiration I have gained and my aspirations toward my goals has shifted in direction. Let life lead you, if you plan it and run a determined path, you might miss out on the best sidewalk of your life! Who knows where I will be in 5 years time at 30, maybe ill go back to uni and follow my pathologist career, maybe ill still be blogging my life in Starbucks.
MIDLIFE CRISIS 20 YEARS EARLY
Totally normal. I have suffered with anxiety and paranoia since I was a child so its only natural that it would rise its head again once I hit the ‘adult world’ but what can you do as an out source when you feel so unhappy and doubt everything you do. The ironic thing is though, whilst you feel so down and alone, you aren’t. A quarter life crisis is actually fairly common and at some stage most people will hit one at some point in their 20’s. No one knows what they are doing in their 20’s, it’s why its the ‘fun decade’ after all, we all need to work out who we are and where we are going.
YOU REALISE WHO YOUR REAL FRIENDS ARE, AND MAKE NEW ONES
Making friends as an adult, especially as a parent is never easy. As a child it is acceptable to walk up to someone and chirp out ‘Will you be my friend’ this as an adult though, will probably seem just a little odd. Friendships have and always will change, it’s not healthy or realistic to think one person, your ‘best friend’ can be everything you want in a BFF. Its only natural to make new friends, and grow apart from some as well. I now connect and get on better with old friends that I never really spent time with, some friends have drifted away and are chasing their own paths and I’ve made some new friends on my own travels. All you can do is be you, strive to be the best version of you and friends will come naturally.
DON’T RUSH FOR THE ‘PERFECT LIFE’
Everyone is different and everyone will hit different stages of their lives at different ages. I am not exactly the most patient of people, if I set my mind too it I will do it but often its rushed or too soon. If we all travel at a mile a minute to try to complete our life long bucket lists what will we have left to do once each thing is ticked of? Slow and steady wins the race and all that jazz… take a step back, take a deep breath and live each moment of life to the fullest. There really is no need to rush.
LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST
Joni Mitchell had it down when she sang “You don’t know what you’ve got until its gone” your twenties are years to be lived to the full and to explore the world, travel and discover who you really are as a person but as much fun as taking tequila shots whilst standing on your head is, savour your twenties. These are days of years that you won’t be able to relive and get back so make sure you make the most of them. Growing up happens in the split of a second, don’t let it creep up on you.